Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
Is it permissible to use amulets (Taweez) that contain random or irregular lines and patterns? There is an Imam who provides such amulets, and people have reported feeling better or finding relief through them. Please clarify the ruling on this
If a girl is divorced but possesses excellent character, is religious, educated, and skilled in household management, should she settle for a man who is uneducated, does not pray, and smokes or vapes?
The girl desires a partner who matches her qualities, but because of her "divorced" status, is she expected to ignore these major flaws? Furthermore, in today’s world, many men (married or single) are habitually chatting with other women. This was the primary reason for her first divorce; she has never spoken to a Na-Mahram (stranger) herself and prays for Allah’s continued guidance. Should she compromise her principles just because she was married before?
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
Why should a divorced woman marry a useless man who doesn’t pray, has no proper upbringing, and possesses bad habits? Does being divorced mean your legs or arms have been cut off? What has happened to our thinking? By doing this, you will only be devaluing yourself. Please, do not do this.
I have personal experience in this matter. Despite being divorced, my daughter received a proposal so wonderful that I can hardly describe it—MashaAllah, she is doing perfectly fine now. I used to feel exactly like you do—thinking that I couldn’t even talk about it or that life was over. Understand that it was simply not Allah’s will for that marriage to work; the compatibility wasn't there. Do not trouble yourself or others with such thoughts. Look for something better.
When I was worried, a relative of mine, Rehana Apa, told me: "Asiya, do not be in a hurry; your daughter will get a very good proposal." At that time, I used to think, "But my daughter is divorced." She was only 24, extremely beautiful, educated, and well-mannered. Allah granted her a wonderful match. My second daughter also went through a divorce, and Allah blessed her with a good husband as well.
So please, divorce is not a stigma, and it does not mean there is a defect in you. Know your worth. Spend your life with someone who is good and honorable.
Regarding your other concern: Absolutely not everyone is the same. Those who fear Allah do not engage in chatting with the opposite gender. Do not marry a person of bad character.
As for the children living far away: Yes, you should recite the morning and evening supplications (Azkar) and blow (dum) with the intention of their protection. May Allah accept your intention. May He create ease for you. Do not lose heart; often, goodness emerges from the midst of hardship.
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