Navigating Marital Conflict

I had a conversation with you, and I also spoke with your husband. Your husband has no objection to you or your daughter, but he finds it difficult to argue or present reasons in front of his mother. It is easier for him (or he feels less troubled) if his wife fights (or is seen as fighting/troublesome)—that is the difficult point you mentioned. The in-laws are getting a divorce decree prepared for you, and your husband is in contact (with them). If he is a 'Qawwam' (a protector/maintainer, a term often used for a husband's responsibility in Islam), then he should act as a 'Qawwam.' The truth is that you, the mother of the daughter, or any other woman, will not be able to get along with him. Our boys are raised in such a way that they are too vegetable (meaning they are passive, weak, or useless/ineffective). May Allah grant your husband the strength to make a firm decision. We spoke with him that day, and he had understood. In one drama, the situation was exactly like yours: the two (husband and mistress) maintained a secret relationship until the wife became pregnant, and then the mother-in-law tells her son that 'this is not even your child.' Then everything explodes (or is revealed) in the end, but only after such a huge price has been paid."