Marriage Proposal and Concerns Regarding Genetic Diseases

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Dr. Asiya Staff asked 2 weeks ago

A marriage proposal has come for me from my paternal aunt’s (Phuppo’s) son, and both my mother and father are in agreement. However, my concern is that due to cousin marriages in our family, there are many genetic diseases, which I suffer from myself. Despite this, my parents like this proposal and want me to marry there—partly because my father cannot bring himself to say no to his sister. I am terrified that my future children might also suffer from these conditions. In all of this, my opinion seems to hold very little weight. I have already spoken to my mother, but she is not listening to me. What can I do in all this? And what will happen in this situation?

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Dr. Asiya Staff answered 2 weeks ago

A proposal has come for you from your cousin, but your family has many genetic disorders due to cousin marriages—to the point that even you are suffering from them. Despite this, your parents are not ready to listen; you have informed your mother, but no importance has been given to your concerns.
You do not want this marriage because you don't want these recessive genes to be multiplied in this way. I understand your situation. Now, you should speak to your father in the presence of your mother. If you cannot do that, speak to your uncle (Chacha). And if that is also not possible, then WhatsApp is your best tool—don't make it long-winded, just get straight to the point:
"Dear Father, I do not want to get married here, and this is the reason..." You should clarify that it isn't about disliking the proposal or wanting to say no to your aunt, but about health. The tone should be respectful and formal.

Marriage Proposal and Concerns Regarding Genetic Diseases

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