Impact of Childhood Trauma & Destiny

Whatever happened has already happened. If your mother behaved that way—though it is difficult to fully accept—we will take your account as true. She projected her own shortcomings, frustrations, and emotional wounds onto you, which should never happen.

It is also clear that you deeply internalize things; you give labels to events that may not exist in the way you perceive them, and then those labels feel real.

Now, your mother-in-law is repeating the same pattern. Remember: When you moved to another environment, your perspective changed, and so did your emotional state.

Try to shift your perspective even now.
Stop giving unnecessary importance to people's behavior. Build your own small world, give people limited time within it, and when that time is over, focus on your own life again.

Direct your energy toward:

your own personal growth

your children

your husband

your home

your relationship with Allah

When we work on our growth, we become emotionally independent, confident, and happy. This is a skill worth learning because life does not always align with our wishes.

As Allama Iqbal beautifully said:
"Create your own world—if you are truly alive."