Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
How can I broaden my heart? I live in a joint family where my husband is the youngest son. Since he earns more, he covers the household expenses as well as the extra costs. I am generally not restricted, though occasionally he does say no to certain things. What bothers me is that no one else contributes, even within their own means, nor is there any acknowledgement of our contribution. Moreover, I handle the bulk of the housework. My sister-in-law (Jethani) is quite selfish, and my mother-in-law often ends up doing her share of the work too. I feel like I am not gaining anything from this setup. How can I expand my heart to accept that Allah has blessed me and given me the means to spend on others? At times, I can't help but feel that everyone is just using us without any regard for our feelings.
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Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
Keep one thing in mind: they say that people who are positive and pure-hearted often get manipulated easily. Similarly, those who possess great wealth also face manipulation; and this is a reality.
Do not just keep your heart 'wide open' without protection; instead, set your boundaries. When you establish boundaries—deciding exactly how much you will do and where you will stop—and shift your focus from others to yourself, you will find that you no longer worry [about external opinions].
Focus on yourself and your own growth. For instance, if your husband is earning well, think about how you can move forward—whether through acts of virtue, charity, your education, or other noble causes. Connect yourself with the Quran. The heart truly expands only when you recognize Allah's blessings and then spend [your time and resources] on His people.
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