Dr. Asiya Staff asked 2 weeks ago
For 12 years, I prayed for a specific person to be in my destiny, asking Allah to make him mine.
But recently, when the reality was revealed to me, I realized that he cannot be good for me and I cannot be happy with him. Despite all this, whenever I raise my hands for supplication, the same prayer comes to my lips—always after prayer, in prostration, and wherever I pray, this same request comes out.
My question is: why does this happen?
Allah has power over all things; He can change everything. He can make him better for me and make him mine. Why am I hesitating while asking Allah? Why, after making that prayer, do I react by thinking, "What am I even asking for?"
Then, the meaning of a verse from the Holy Quran comes to my mind: that man prays for evil for himself as he should pray for good. It means man doesn't even know if what he is asking for is right for him or not.
What should I do? Should I stop my prayer? Should I stop asking Allah for that?
But if Allah wills, anything is possible.
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 2 weeks ago
Look, you have no control over your heart, but you do have control over your intellect, don't you? Do not leave it all to the heart. You are praying—continue to ask Allah, but ask for what is best (Khair). You yourself do not know what is harmful (Shar) and what is good for you. I have seen many cases where something was prayed for with a heavy heart, and later, the person couldn't wait to get away from that very thing.
May Allah make things easy for everyone, but there is nothing more beautiful or appropriate than the prayer of Istikhara.
My sister, humans are not as reliable as we think they are.
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