Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
About 9 or 10 years ago, when I was a teenager and my only focus was my studies, I saw a dream. In the dream, I was standing in my room at home, holding a baby (like a newborn) in my arms. I was looking at the baby and smiling. Standing behind me was a man, looking at the baby over my shoulder. I felt very happy in the dream, and whenever I thought about it afterward, it gave me a good feeling.
The boy standing behind me was my maternal aunt's son (my cousin). After seeing this dream, the only thought in my heart was: 'I hope I never get married to this guy.' Yet, in the dream, I was happy. (Often, dreams like this occur if you are thinking about someone, but at that time, I had no such thoughts in my heart or mind).
Now, it so happens that my marriage has been fixed with that same boy. Initially, I was not in favor of this proposal because he was not regular with his prayers, his social circle wasn't good, and I didn't particularly like him. When I mentioned the first two reasons for my refusal, he promised that he would start praying regularly and he has since left that bad company. During the days these discussions were ongoing, I performed Istikhara daily, and eventually, the engagement took place.
Now, sometimes I feel satisfied, but at other times, I am overcome by doubt—what if he doesn't change? Looking back at that dream, can a dream from so long ago have a connection to this situation? Does my happiness in the dream mean this decision is better for me? I had forgotten all about this dream; it only just came back to me.
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
The dream that the girl saw 9 or 10 years ago was very clear and significant. When a believer sees a dream that brings peace and happiness to the heart, rather than burden or fear, it is indeed considered a "Roya-e-Saliha" (a true and righteous dream) from Allah. Such dreams should be taken as a positive sign, and one should pray and perform Istikhara regarding them; they should not be ignored easily.
Key Points of the Advice:
Significance of the Dream: Seeing a baby in the presence of the man—who is actually her maternal aunt's son—is a meaningful symbol. The boy has already committed to praying five times a day and has resigned from his previous job/company. We must accept what is apparent from Allah's side, as only He knows what the future holds.
A Positive Transition: Recently, the young man has shown his desire for her, and since they are already relatives and there is no Shari'i prohibition (mumanat) for this marriage, his step toward righteousness should be appreciated.
Trust in Allah: She should put her trust in Allah and keep praying. It is hoped that this matter will turn out well and yield a positive result. While only Allah knows what lies ahead, one should keep his current spirit of piety in mind.
Avoiding Fitnah: It is better to formalize the relationship (Nikah) soon to prevent any "Fitnah" (trials or temptations) from spreading later. May Allah grant success and honor in this world and the hereafter. Ameen.
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