Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
I am getting married to a man who is already married, but he wants me to work with him and support him in his business. Now, I am confused because his (first) wife will be sitting comfortably at home while I have to work. She will get everything, but I will have to stand side-by-side with our husband and work? This isn't fair. :( I really want to marry him, and we are engaged, but I am so confused now. I don't understand anything—why should I support him like this? Should she just sit and eat while I work?
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
You are about to marry a married man, and he is demanding that you work alongside him in his business. Your concern is why he isn't asking the first wife to do the same and why he is asking you. If you do work, you should take a salary for it; if you want to do it, do it, but do not do it as a forced obligation.
And if you are not interested, tell him clearly that you aren't interested. This is your right—whether you work or not. After marrying a married man, the challenge of competition always remains. You must keep yourself out of that competition. Focus on yourself and focus on what you have. Do not engage in 'one-upping' or rivalry. People's demands, capabilities, and priorities are different. Treat the co-wife as if she doesn't even exist (in your personal mental space). Save yourself from heartbreak, and save others from it too.
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