Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
My question is that I love my husband very much and I respect him deeply. I prefer to do everything for him with my own hands.
However, the problem is that I am unable to fulfill his marital rights. Perhaps the reason is that he only shows me affection when he is half-asleep or drowsy. Otherwise, he doesn't even listen to me properly, whereas I listen to everything he says with great attention.
He fulfills every material necessity, and we have children together. I truly want to give him happiness, but I don't know why, while fulfilling that specific right, I simply don't feel any emotion or 'feeling.' I even pray and make Dua for this.
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
Look, if you are making yourself available to him, even if you don't enjoy it much or participate actively, you are still fulfilling your rights. So, what is the issue? May Allah make it easy for you.
Sometimes, husbands take the easy way out; they don't want to put in the effort or 'work' for it, yet they still expect perfect, exceptional intimacy. You should set some conditions for him. Fix certain days for intimacy and let him know clearly, for example: 'Until 9:00 PM is the time; after that, it's off the table.'
He will adjust eventually. It might not work the first or second time, but things will fall into place. Set rules—like 'no phones'—and communicate them. When you know in advance that a specific day is set aside for this, your subconscious will also start preparing you. Try to 'act' interested at first, and eventually, you will find yourself genuinely taking an interest.
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