Dr. Asiya Staff asked 2 weeks ago
There are so many issues going on in our house. I have gone through a divorce, and my brother’s married life is also on the verge of breaking. He wants to move abroad, but nothing is working out. I also applied for a visa, but it was rejected. My mother is visiting a man, an Imam of a mosque, who provides amulets (taweez) containing random lines. Before giving them, he performs ablution (wuzu). Many people have reportedly felt better after seeing him. He told us that someone has performed "black magic" or "bad things" on our family. I believe in these matters, but I do not want to go there or use these amulets. My mother is forcing me to do so, which led to a severe argument between us. What should I do?
Furthermore, my mother uses abusive language constantly, and that is why I dislike her. I have tried to make her understand many times, but she doesn't listen. I even showed her videos about the "punishment of the grave" (Qabar ka Azab) thinking it might scare her into stopping, but she doesn't care. What should I do? My maternal aunts and uncles (Khala and Mamu) have all advised her to stop speaking this way, but she doesn't listen.
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 2 weeks ago
There are countless problems in your house, yet your mother continues to visit the mosque's Imam and brings back amulets (taweez) covered in crooked, random lines. You have already argued with her, and even your maternal aunts and uncles have advised her, but she simply does not listen. When a person becomes this stubborn, even mentioning the accountability of the grave does not work.
You need to change your approach. Stop arguing with her because she is currently dug into her position. If you find something positive or a good religious reminder on Facebook or WhatsApp, share it with her gently. When she gives you an amulet, stay quiet and just take it from her—you don’t actually have to use it. If you pacify her and lower the tension, then Insha'Allah, she will eventually understand. Right now, she is convinced these "lines" hold some power. She looks at "success stories," but in reality, there is often nothing of substance behind them; these people simply build a reputation in front of others, and people get influenced by the outward appearance (optics) just because someone claimed they were cured.
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