Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
I am a student of MS at Lahore College for Women University (LCWU). I prayed so much for this admission, and finally, I achieved it. Now, I am living in a hostel. My parents are in their 60s and are living alone at home. Although my sister-in-law is there, she does not take care of them and is not ready to take any responsibility. My mother has to perform daily chores like cooking, cleaning, and ironing, which are beyond her physical strength. She also has to look after my youngest nephew. Furthermore, my father has to iron his own clothes and handle everything else himself.
When I was at home, I used to do their routine work and helped them a lot. Now, I feel immense guilt and cry frequently when I see them doing such hard work in their old age. I feel that I should not have taken admission and instead should have stayed to take care of them and spend time with them. I am thinking about quitting my education and going back home. Please tell me what I should do.
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
I really appreciate your concern for your parents. First of all, congratulations on securing your admission! However, you are worried about your parents being in their 60s—excuse me, but the 60s is not a very old age. Your love for them is one thing, but let me tell you: the fact that your mother does all the household chores herself is actually very commendable.
Don't even ask me about my own mother-in-law or my mother; those who are bedridden and cannot do their own housework are the ones truly struggling. As long as a person remains active, they remain a part of life. Keeping them "on display" just to show them love [by not letting them move] isn't actually doing them any favors. It is a good thing that they are doing their own work. As for your sister-in-law, she likely does her part; when you are nearby, you might do it all, but when you are away, if she doesn't do it, then it won't get done at all.
Staying active and working is a very good thing. When you lie down all the time, the desire to work fades and your productivity drops to zero. This is why many people cannot survive for long after retirement—they think they have worked enough and now only want to rest. Staying busy is a very productive and proactive approach to life.
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