Dr. Asiya Staff asked 1 week ago
I have two connected questions. First, it is mentioned in the Quran and Hadith that Allah only burdens a soul with more than it can bear; if that is the case, why do even religious people commit suicide or lose their mental stability to the point that they require admission to mental hospitals?
Secondly, I had a very close friend. We shared three years of sincere friendship, but in the fourth year, she drifted away and began spending time with people who were not very practicing Muslims. Because of my faith, I had to separate my path from her, but it hurts me deeply since I was always honest and loyal to her. Even though I have moved on in life, the emotional pain still haunts me. My question is, how can I truly forgive her and free myself from this trauma? Please tell me some concrete steps.
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Dr. Asiya Staff answered 1 week ago
You have asked why practicing, religious people commit suicide even though Allah says He does not burden a soul beyond its capacity. Keep one thing in mind: every human is bound to do only what is within their capacity. When something goes beyond a person's control or capacity, even the forbidden can become permissible; do not be too confused by this. As far as the trials of this world are concerned, when they come, one must practice patience (Sabr) to the best of their ability.
Regarding suicide, Allah has commanded us never to lose hope. We must bear the burden, put up with circumstances, and keep fighting until the very last moment and the last breath. Giving up hope is not acceptable. If something does not happen despite your hard work, there is no harm in that; that is Allah’s decree for you, and His decree is always the best.
As for your point about someone committing suicide because they were overwhelmed by immense pain and trials and "lost" to themselves—let me tell you, that is a matter between them and Allah. Why should you or I pass judgment on them? The relationship between a Creator and His servant is unlike any other. Allah is well aware of that person's pain and helplessness, and He will judge every individual personally. He will see to it. If someone has committed suicide, pray for their forgiveness and leave the matter to the Lord.
Regarding your friend who started associating with non-practicing people, leading you to leave her: you are struggling to overcome that trauma. Pray for your friend, but do not depend so heavily on human beings. People leave our lives in many ways; you ended this relationship consciously. Practice patience, make good and righteous friends, and above all, focus on yourself.
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