Dr. Asiya Staff asked 3 months ago
Aoa. After marriage i get to know a lot of things about my husband and his family environment. He had an affair for past 10 years and is still into it (I don't know to what extent). Also he is an addict and unfortunately living abroad where every haram thing is so permissible. He didn't offer prayers except for Friday prayer.
I get to know all about this when i was 1 month pregnant and couldn't decide what to do. I fear for my deen and my daughters upbringing.
His family environment is likewise they didn't consider sins as sins and didn't bother correcting him. His father and brother is also into such things. He is the only person who is earning good that's the reason they didn't correct his behaviour.
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Dr. Asiya Staff answered 3 months ago
A person who lives abroad and they are well-to-do people; the brother and father are also like this (involved in similar things). The best thing is that money is coming in. He consumes alcohol. He has also had an affair for the past ten years and indulges in all these evils but does not offer prayers. Since everyone [in his family] is like this, why would anyone condemn him? May Allah make things easy for you. You were pregnant when you found out all this, and you are very worried about your Deen (faith) and your daughter—you are absolutely right. You cannot fight two battles at once. Think about what your mindset will be if, after labor, the relationship does not continue. This will help you set your boundaries as soon as you are a little settled. At that time, you should tell him that either he agrees (to change) or the two of you should part ways without any further arguments, because he is committing major sins (Kabirah Gunah) and is not willing to give them up. Therefore, you cannot spend your life with such a person."
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