Islamic Ruling on Delegation of Divorce Authority (Tafwid al-Talaq)

You have become frightened by one thing because the realization struck you that, 'What if it connects to this thing?' So you became very distressed. And your husband did not say that. Since he gave you a kind of right [permission], and you interpreted that right in this way, you thought, 'It must have happened.' First and foremost, your husband did not use the words that would constitute a divorce; therefore, no divorce has occurred. As far as the right to divorce is concerned, please understand its technicalities: the right to divorce that our [secular/local] law speaks of is not our pure Sharia law. The right to divorce belongs only to the husband. Even in the case of Khula (dissolution of marriage initiated by the wife), the husband is compelled to pronounce the divorce. And if he does not, for example, if he is ill, the court does not issue the divorce itself; it compels him to do it. Khula proceedings are very long, lasting seven to eight months, during which both parties must appear in court. Therefore, a divorce does not occur merely because the husband's tongue slipped. Please, please be patient. I feel that you lack purpose in your life; you need to find a purpose. Our course, 'Self-Connectivity,' is for you, because the 'weeds' that grow within us—which create the [Obsessive-Compulsive] Disorder (OCD)—are a result of our inner unfulfillment, which we try to fill from somewhere else. This unhealthy 'bingeing' that we do—all of this is an outcome of OCD. This is all inner restlessness. And this only subsides when you live according to the border system (limits/guidelines) of Allah Almighty. May Allah Almighty remove all trials from everyone."