Dealing with Guilt and Misbehavior: A Muslimah’s Guide to Patience and Justice

"Oh, you want to be a good Muslimah, and you beat your maids (kaam walis)? By the way, tell me, which maids are those who tolerate a beating? Our maids, when they are in a bad mood, they take their money and say, 'Keep your work to yourself; disrespect is not acceptable.' Look, do not lose your temper with the maids. Your status is that of a mistress/employer (Malikan). Your level of tolerance and theirs should be different. You should tell them what needs to be done in detail, with a plan. When you have told them, then let them prove themselves. If they work according to your standards, it will surely be good, and if you praise them, the factor of scolding and reprimanding will decrease."