Introduction
A problem is emerging with full force today that was never discussed in our society. Traditionally, women were not only advised to endure it, but it was considered the mark of a “respectable woman” not to express her sexual needs in the name of shame and modesty.
Conventionally, it is assumed that sexual desire and initiation are the man’s domain, while a “respectable woman” should depend on her husband. But the tragedy is that men, who consider sexual potency a sign of their manhood, are the ones who lose control over it sooner than women.
They then merely try to blow on spent embers to show a spark and, failing that, still try to blame the woman entirely for the relationship failing to warm up or for the lack of sexual gratification.
When Confidence Meets Denial
This pattern has continued for a long time, but now that women have gained a sense of their rights and the confidence to complain — when they dare to scrutinize the men who threaten them with second marriage, eviction, or divorce — a major reason for the increasing divorce rate has surfaced.
Today’s man, addicted to pornography, keeping bad company, lost in the artificial world of social media, and living an unhealthy life, is simply unable to fulfil the legitimate physical needs of a healthy woman.
Adding insult to injury, this “firecracker” loses its sparkle as soon as he hits the age of 40. Meanwhile, the woman at this age is preparing to understand her body and needs with confidence, ready for new experiences. Seeing this situation, a man surrenders without a fight and buries his head in the sand like a pigeon.
Women’s Emotional Strength and Resilience
At this point, a woman gains another advantage: she has a greater capacity for learning and the courage to dedicate herself to solving problems compared to a man.
A woman is ready to improve the relationship through experimentation and effort, while a man finds it easier to surrender rather than work for his wife. The woman tries to take deep breaths and endure — but can the laws of nature be deceived?
The Emotional Cost of a Broken Bond
Naturally, all forms of interest and connection in domestic life often hinge on the sexual relationship. When this is missing, the man’s wounded ego and sense of humiliation emotionally weaken him, which he tries to handle with his traditional aggressive nature.
But the result is hatred and loss of tolerance from the now-aware woman. The question arises here: why?
Some Statistics Regarding Low Libido in Men
- According to the World Health Organization (WHO), approximately 2% to 8% of men worldwide suffer from a significant reduction in sexual desire (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder).
- Studies show that over 20% of men over 40 experience Low Testosterone, a major cause of decreased sexual desire.
- Stress and depression are among the biggest causes of sexual disinterest in men — and these problems are rapidly increasing in modern lifestyles.
- Diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, and obesity also have a direct negative impact on male sexual health.
The Woman’s Question
“Don’t I have my physical rights? I also protected myself from the forbidden, expecting the permissible?”
If a woman is unable to bear children or fulfil the sexual relationship, her husband expects her to arrange his second marriage herself. But if the same man is unable to fulfil his responsibilities — what step will he take concerning her?
Will he set her free so that she can legitimately find a partner who can support her emotions and needs? Or at least remove the burden of his inadequate existence from her?
Facing the Truth
Sexual disinterest is a growing storm that is devastating respectable homes. Men must take this weakness seriously.
A woman’s right is not only to children but also to sexual gratification — which is the guarantor of her chastity and domestic stability.
The reality is that as soon as youth ends — by the age of 35 to 38 — the sperm count of many men starts to drop. Diseases like diabetes, blood pressure, and heart ailments make this problem even more serious. Industrialized and processed foods have also destroyed Testosterone levels.
A Society’s Silent Cry
The question arises: where should a respectable woman go?
Should she stand in court and tell the judge, “My husband hasn’t touched me for 5, 8, or 9 years?”
Is this, like other domestic issues, merely the problem of the respectable woman — which she should tolerate as a form of worship in exchange for maintenance (alimony) for her husband’s “impotence”?
Conclusion
Desolation in married life is not just about physical distance — it’s about emotional starvation, denial, and silence. Society must recognize that intimacy is a human need, not a taboo. Only when both partners accept responsibility and confront the truth can relationships move from desolation to healing.
