Dr. Asiya Staff asked 2 weeks ago
I am 30 years old. I got married last year, but till now I am still a virgin — living in a sexless marriage.
In the beginning, I told my mother-in-law and she showed concern, but later she stopped caring.
I also told my parents, and they advised me to come back home. But since they are old and I have an unmarried elder sister, I didn’t want to burden them, so I told them I was happy — just to make them feel at ease.
I am educated from a reputable university, handle all household chores, and fulfill my duties as an elder daughter-in-law. Still, I feel emotionally and physically unsatisfied.
There’s no problem with my husband otherwise — he says everything is fine. When I was overweight, I even joined a gym and lost weight, yet he still avoids intimacy. I crave affection every night, as it’s a halal relationship, but nothing happens.
1 Answers
Dr. Asiya Staff answered 2 weeks ago
You have been married for a year and are still a virgin. You mentioned this to your mother-in-law and family, but the issue remains unresolved.
Your husband fulfills every responsibility except the most intimate one, which is causing you distress.
You should have an open and calm conversation with your husband about this matter. Put aside shame or hesitation and speak to him firmly yet respectfully — as if discussing an important issue like a financial matter. Make it clear that this is not a small or casual concern.
After this discussion, we can consider the next steps, Insha’Allah (God willing).
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